there is this guy..

[`wolf]

okay, last year i asked a guy out.
next day he hanged round me..but ever since that day he has been avoiding me and we haven't spoken much..that was august last year. its been nearly 5 months and its been incredibly awkward. this guy was really nice, and i miss his company and such....and now at the beginning of 2008 school year..its been 3 weeks and we haven't addressed eachother at all. (i never got an answer btw)

i need some help..ive had so many oppourtunities to talk to him but i cant manage to...i think im afraid of rejection, but after talking with some ppl, i found out that he is extremely embarrassed about how he acted like and idiot last year and feels very guilty

i want to talk to him, but what should i say?

[Etha]

Wow, sounds like a problem I had 0__o only the guy is stalking me now..heh...

I think you should try to talk to him. If not face to face try through myspace or IM, or a note or something like that.

[`wolf]

Wow, sounds like a problem I had 0__o only the guy is stalking me now..heh...

I think you should try to talk to him. If not face to face try through myspace or IM, or a note or something like that.

any suggestions what to say... :(

[Etha]

Just start off to get his attention, something like "Hey, how's it going?" If he responds, take it from there. Ask how he likes school so far, or what he did last weekend, or if he saw so and so do whatever yesterday during 3rd period. Whatever floats your boat.

If the conversations seem to go along smooth then say something like "It's nice to be able to talk to you again, we haven't spoken in a long time"

It might take some time to trigger a wanted response and he may not want to talk at all, it just depends...

[noobie]

Great advice etha hun...

Yeah, i think, id just come straight out with it...Just say..look, i know things are awquard between us, and it shouldnt be.
We used to be really close..so ok, i made a mistake by asking you out, but if id have known it would have ruined the friendship we had, then i wouldnt have dreamed of it.
Cant we just forget it and start a friendship again, i miss ya as a friend, and its hard seeing you round not being able to talk to ya.

Something like that might do the trick lol, i think if youre just honest hun, he'll open up more, im sure everything will be fine, he probably wants to make the first move too, but is just too shy.

Best of luck babs, and be sure to let us know if it worked out well. :)

[`wolf]

Great advice etha hun...

Yeah, i think, id just come straight out with it...Just say..look, i know things are awquard between us, and it shouldnt be.
We used to be really close..so ok, i made a mistake by asking you out, but if id have known it would have ruined the friendship we had, then i wouldnt have dreamed of it.
Cant we just forget it and start a friendship again, i miss ya as a friend, and its hard seeing you round not being able to talk to ya.

Something like that might do the trick lol, i think if youre just honest hun, he'll open up more, im sure everything will be fine, he probably wants to make the first move too, but is just too shy.

Best of luck babs, and be sure to let us know if it worked out well. :)

ty so much <3
the major issue is..is lack of self confidence..

[noobie]

Honestly hun...just go for it, you may shock yourself, but youll feel so much better for it :)

[`wolf]

Honestly hun...just go for it, you may shock yourself, but youll feel so much better for it :)

haha...thanks :D

[Vintage]

Oh my god. Just ask him out again.

[Raditz]

Oh my god. Just ask him out again.

you should listen to him...his a expert...at least i think his a he... :?

[Vintage]

I am.

[lokifeyson]

I suggest not use a note, because then when you guys see each other again the awkwardness might still be there.

where as if you talk to him face to face, you get the awkwardness over with right then and there.

I had this same issue, it was in grade school and I wrote a "love" note to one of my best friends, I kept it anonymous. then I told her it was me and it got weird, lol, but we stayed friends..

then in middle school I got the nerve to ask her out and we had a date set up and everything, well I got sick that week and I was in no condition to go out. we ended saying we were bf and gf, but after that it got awkward again, lol, we just didn't talk like we used to, it sucked, the worst part was that I had another friend that also liked her and he started to tell lies about me to her :(

well it basically stayed awkward all through high school even, so I hope that it doesn't happen to you :)

[Vintage]

ASK. HIM. OUT. AGAIN.

[ArmedCivilian]

Well I know from experiences when I tried to get a guy confidence is key. :P I don't think just asking him out again would solve anything. You guys haven't talked in the longest time so it might just make matters worse. I fail at relationships though. Lol.

[`wolf]

Well I know from experiences when I tried to get a guy confidence is key. :P I don't think just asking him out again would solve anything. You guys haven't talked in the longest time so it might just make matters worse. I fail at relationships though. Lol.

vintage. asking him out again would make me seem desperate lol..
but thanks armed..and loki and such and vintage. of course

[Bloody_Saint]

Well I know from experiences when I tried to get a guy confidence is key. :P I don't think just asking him out again would solve anything. You guys haven't talked in the longest time so it might just make matters worse. I fail at relationships though. Lol.
wow what AC is a chick to wtf how many women are there with androgynous names T_T and wolf just be straight forward ask him straight out w/e happens happens dont worry about what could happen just think about what you want to happen grab life by the horns and make that man yours gotta jump before you can fall

[diesel]

Im the same wolf. NO confidence whatsoever!! So ive had alot of advice given to me (that ive never really been able to use) that i can now relay to you.

Ok didnt quite get if you still like him in that way or just want to be friends so i will talk about both.

If you still like him, tell him. Simple as that. Guys like it when the girl makes the 1st move (usually). Ok so maybe he freaked out when you asked him out last time, so this time just ease into it. Dont go straight for it, ask him to go 'out' to the movies, or bowling, or ice skating etc (id recommend not movies as you cant talk as much) and then he SHOULD agree. If your not up to that organise a group thing where you can both go etc Then at the end of it, tell him you had a really good time with him and how you'd love to do it again, hug him and walk away/say goodbye. Then if he likes you in that way and has testicles he should ask you 'out' again or make a move as he knows that your interested, knowing a girl is interested gives the guy confidence, maybe thats what you need to, to know if he is interested...

If you just want to be friends, id say go with what noobie said. Go straight to him (when hes alone) tell him how you miss the friendship you had, and what happened with you asking him out and eveything becoming awkward can be put behind. And ease back into it. Start talking to him a bit more and doing the things you used to, then after a while it should be mended.

Dont know if any of this helps, but hey, be confident in yourself, believe in yourself, your beautiful (personlity anyway as i havnt seen your pic :P) -make him know it, make him want it. And as my uncle likes to tell me- "have a can of harden the f*ck up and talk to the *****" :P :P 8)

[noobie]

AC isnt a chick...says so in the name age and sex thread.

[Eretix]

who knows maybe AC is impersonating a guy :D

[ArmedCivilian]

Could be. >.>

[noobie]

why impersonating?

I think its cool if youre gay AC and are proud enough to admit it, theres nothing wrong with being gay at all.

[Bloody_Saint]

*puts on iron undies* hey if your gay thats cool ill just make sure not to pick the soap up when your around XD j/k unbelievable i get along better with gay guys than straight ones O_o the gay guys and the women i am friends with tell me it b/c im more empathetic to people feelings then most straight men wonder if its true anyhow back on topic so did you ask him yet wolf and if not you better hurry wait to long and you could miss your chance altogether and if you do that youll be thinking about it for years to come god knows i still am T_T(about a chick not a guy just in case vintage comes in a says his usual annoying stuff i figured id better point that out)

[Vintage]

Err.Something gives me the impression AC isnt gay.

[ArmedCivilian]

I'm whatever makes you guys most comfortable.

[Bloody_Saint]

well in that case AC your a tall boy of redbull and a big bottle of yager ROFL

[Vintage]

umm.. k.

BACK ON TOPIC

[xBRONCOS]

why dont you guys just go with some other friends and go bowling?

[`wolf]

this guy has the strictest single parent mother ive ever seen...she is extremely restrictive..but protective..i guess...but he is 15.

[ArmedCivilian]

I'd say it is time he breaks a few of his mother's rules.

[`wolf]

I'd say it is time he breaks a few of his mother's rules.

everyone i know agrees with you AC...im just not sure he would..


anyway, yesterday, i took up the courage and spoke to him
i said sry about last yr, he said sry about avoiding me.
then awkward silence for 1 min..which was saved by the lunch bell haha!

he even said halfway thru "awkward silence eh"

i was soooo embarrassed by now, im

**headdesk* laugh*

its quite funny but awkward..ill see how things go from now..

thanks guys..ill keep you posted.

and diesel, you have a very lovely personality too! :D

[noobie]

ah hun thats a great start....sounds promising i thinks :) Keep us posted hun...least yous spoke and you both apologised, so thats ace

[`wolf]

ah hun thats a great start....sounds promising i thinks :) Keep us posted hun...least yous spoke and you both apologised, so thats ace

thanks noobie~

[`wolf]

progress!
he is hanging round my group now...and we are actually having "indirect" speech..but it seems more comfortable for both of us, which is great.
indirect is when we are talking in a group..and he would answer some of my questions and stuff..we are looking at eachother too..not completely awkward either.

[noobie]

aww hun, thats brill, im so pleased

[`wolf]

aww hun, thats brill, im so pleased

thanks noobie! :D :D
you've been to helpful....like a little angel! :D :D

[noobie]

Aww bless ya....i bet things feel so much happier when youre around him now...i love when ya get that huge tesion lift away, something youve been meaning to do for a while, and when you do it, you feel sooo much better.

[xBRONCOS]

congrats 8) keep making coversations wth him

[`wolf]

thanks so much again guys... :D :oops: :wink: